With all the current streams of social media, and the abundance of wellness content, fitness content, positivity, manifestation and self-improvement, it can be easy to see every new idea as a strategy to change our lives. A way out. A completely new way of living that might finally give us exactly what we’re looking for.
So we spend weeks, months, sometimes even years, adapting these strategies into our everyday lives. Hoping, praying that this is the thing that will change our life, change our way of thinking, or finally fix whatever it is buried deep within us that we just can’t seem to let go of.
Lately, it seems to be a trending issue amongst my close friends and family. They feel like they’re putting in all of this work. They’re grinding. They’re making incredible changes in their lives. And yet, they still feel a lifetime away from their goals.
Because we all have these ideas. These versions of ourselves. These grand goals we wish to achieve in this life.
And we believe that if we just keep going, keep putting in the work, then one day it will all come to us.
But then one day we sit there and realise we’re not feeling the way we thought we would feel.
We haven’t reached the goal we desperately wanted to reach.
Sure, our physical bodies may have changed. Our nutrition has improved. Our mindset is better. Our mood has improved because of the work we’ve been doing.
But sometimes it still doesn’t feel like enough.
We want the big goals.
Why hasn’t the business succeeded yet? Why am I not where I thought I’d be?
They said if I improved these areas of my life and manifested hard enough that I’d get there, or at least be well on my way.
And when it doesn’t happen as quickly as we’d hoped, we get disappointed. Then we get discouraged.
But I think something we all need to practice a little more is gratitude. And I know that sounds a bit woo-woo to some people.
But if we constantly tell ourselves we’re not there yet, we haven’t done enough, we’re not good enough, or maybe it’s never going to happen, eventually our nervous systems start to believe it.
Those thoughts become familiar. Those feelings become comfortable.
And before we know it, we’re living in a cycle of never feeling like what we’ve done is enough.
So I encourage you to take a step back. Zoom out.
Look at what you’ve actually accomplished over the past few months, or even the past few years.
Have you survived an illness? Have you left a toxic or abusive relationship?
Have you changed habits that have improved your physical and mental wellbeing?
Good. Remember that and acknowledge it.
Because sometimes things take time. Sometimes they require patience. We’re all working towards something.
And whether it works out exactly as planned or not, the fact that you tried is better than never trying at all.
And if you do succeed one day, you’ll be able to look back and see that every setback, every lesson, and every tiny step forward was worth it.
This is why I created Mettle. It’s not hustle culture. It’s consistency. It’s trusting yourself. It’s learning how to come back to yourself, over and over again.
And who knows…
There may just be a free digital download on the horizon for you all to try.
